CAROL TAYLOR

Carol Taylor

Welcome to my website. I'm Carol Taylor the editor of BROWN SUGAR the best-selling fiction series, WANDERLUST: EROTIC TRAVEL TALES, and THE EX CHRONICLES, my first novel, which will be published March 2010. The stories in BROWN SUGAR and WANDERLUST are written by best-selling and up and coming black authors. Here you will find information about all four Brown Sugar books: BROWN SUGAR, BROWN SUGAR 2: GREAT ONE NIGHT STANDS, BROWN SUGAR 3: WHEN OPPOSITES ATTRACT and BROWN SUGAR 4: SECRET DESIRES, WANDERLUST, and THE EX CHRONICLES. Click on each title to find out information about the book and the contributing authors. Or go to the Selected Works column on the right to read excerpts from the books, my published short stories and essays and to get early looks at upcoming work. Enjoy!

OFF THE HOOK: ADVICE ON LOVE AND LUST

While you're here, check out for my relationship column Off the Hook: Advice on Love and Lust on the right. You'll be glad you did. They're a trip and they're FREE! Below is a sample. If you love 'em tell your friends. And feel free to send me your own love and sex dilemmas, maybe I can hook you up.


JUST SEX, NO FEELINGS

Dear Carol,

This gorgeous guy that I met about two months ago asked me if we could see each other just for sex. That way we get what we both want . . . Should I say yes or no? I just want him for sex no feelings involved. Does that make me a bad person? HELP!!!
-- Leila


Dear Leila,

The only thing that can make you a bad person is being a bad person. Knowing who you are and what you want won’t. Why shouldn’t you both have safe sex, no strings attached if it is what you both want? Girl, I got people who really need my help, and you can get dinner and a movie, nookie from a hottie, unlimited booty calls and you are tying up my line. Bob, I’ll take sex, no strings attached for $5,000.

But before you assume the position, take a good long look at the situation. Do you secretly want a relationship with this guy and feel that sex will get it or do you really just want sex? If it’s a relationship then simply tell him that you’re flattered but you actually like to get to know people before you have sex with them. You’re just old fashioned that way. I say this because women (emotional creatures that we are) have a hard time having straight up sex with men we barely know. That’s why most women booty call their exes for straight up sex, we already know them and can have the level of intimacy needed to have fulfilling sex. (Shameless Plug: Speaking of sleeping with your ex, check out my new novel THE EX CHRONICLES; it's getting great reviews!)

No matter what you decide you’ve gotta give him props for at least being honest, though, it could just be arrogance. Most men perpetrate looking for a relationship when they really only want sex.

Work with me here: If we said yes to every guy who told us they just wanted to have sex with us, we’d be on our backs all day long and not get anything done. So you figure it out but I have a feeling you already know your answer. If you want only sex "no feelings involved" it seems like you can get it, if not from him definitely from someone else. Just step outside and ask any man. But if you really want more, if you hold out you’ll get it. If you don’t, you won’t. That simple. Being unavailable is like Kryptonite it weakens the strongest man, but in that same vein being overly-available will never get you anywhere near a relationship with him or anybody else. And hey, quite honestly, easy nookie is good, but so are intimacy, hugs and kisses, and late night phone calls just to say I was thinking about you. You decide. Good luck, girl.

-- Carol

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