CAROL TAYLOR

BROWN SUGAR WANDERLUST THE EX CHRONICLES AND INSIGNIFICANT OTHERS

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PRAISE FOR
THE EX CHRONICLES

"It's a familiar premiseófour 30-ish, New York City friends... navigating the perils of single life. Thankfully, Taylor makes it fresh again in her delicious debut novel by punching up the ante with some intriguing Terry McMillanesque twists."
ó Publisher's Weekly



PRAISE FOR BROWN SUGAR

"Audaciously refreshing."
óEssence
"A stylish anthology."
óPublishers Weekly
"As smart as it is sexy."
óHoney



CONTRIBUTORS

Sapphire, Pamela Sneed, Natasha Tarpley, Jabari Asim, Tony Medina, RM Johnson, Leone Ross, Reginald Harris, Marci Blackman, Kwame Dawes, Lisa Teasley, Michael Gonzales, Lois Griffith, Chris Benson, Diane Patrick.



CONTRIBUTORS

Glenville Lovell
Deep Bronze
Miles Marshall Lewis
Nina Foxx
SekouWrites
Sandra Kitt
Preston L. Allen
Carol Amorosa
Jervey Tervalon
Nalo Hopkinson
Brandon Massey
Tracy Price-Thompson
Sandra Jackson-Opoku
Melvin E. Lewis

OFF THE HOOK: Advice on Love and Lust


OFF THE HOOK: ADVICE ON LOVE AND LUST


HE'S GOT WEDDING JITTERS

Dear Carol,

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. Last August he proposed to me. We set the date for 6 months later. The day after Valentine's Day he called the wedding off. He told me that he wasn't ready for marriage and he wasn't sure what his feelings were for me. A week later he came to me and said that although he wasn't ready for marriage he wanted to try and work things out. I have no idea what to do. He is 27 years old and I feel like if he isn't ready now he may never be. Not only that but he keeps flip-flopping from mood to mood. One minute he is all over me and the next minute he seems 20 miles away. Any advice?

-- Lisa


Dear Lisa,

Do you know the saying? "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?"

Iím not saying that women should remain virgins until marriageóI would have been off the marriage list ages agoóbut that men rarely appreciate what they have until itís gone. Iím not glibly telling you to throw three plus years out the window or leave a man you love. But homeboy is not going to make keeping you a priority until it seems like he might lose you. So here is some advice.

1. Be Unavailable: The most important thing a girl can beóto catch, keep and sometimes win back a manóis unavailable. So donít always pick up the phone when he calls, and I know you have Caller ID. Keep him guessing.

2. Be Busy: I donít wanna hear youíre sitting around waiting for your man to call. Girl, you may as well get a T-shirt that says Dickwhipped. No joke. Stay busy, go out. Get a hobby.

3. Be Coy: A little obfuscation (look it up) goes a long way. Say you are out with a girlfriend and he pages you. He asks "Lisa, where you at?" What do you say? "Hey Boo. Iím here chilliní with Nia." WRONG!!!! You say, "Hey Boo. Iím out with a friend. I gotta go, lemme call you later." KA-POW.

4. Be Beautiful: Some girls are like, "I already got a man" and are walking around the house in a dirty T-shirt, and boxers. Now Iím not saying you should get tricked out. But damn girl; comb your hair. The minute you know Homeboy is coming over itís shower, shampoo, and shine, then 1-2-3, into a sexy little sumthiní. And unless youíre Líil Kim, skip the face full of makeup; you want to seem low maintenance, even if youíre not.

Now Iím gonna be straight up with you, Lisa, this is not a game itís for real. If he balks, be prepared to walk, cause thatís what itíll take to either wake him up to how valuable you are or wake yourself up to the same thing. Last, maybe heís is simply not ready to get married, 27 is not so old (I got shoes older than that). I donít think anyone should get married until theyíre at least 30. Thatís when you start to know yourself, and what you want. Good luck, girl.

-- Carol


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SELECTED WORKS

New Four-Book Novella Series
Book 1 coming spring 2013, with a new book published every six months.
BellaOnline Interview Part 5
Carol Taylor shares her 18 years writing and editing experience with BellaOnline.
BellaOnline Interview Part 4
Carol Taylor shares her 18 years of writing and editing experience with BellaOnline.
BellaOnline Interview Part 3
Carol Taylor shares her 18 years writing and editing experience with BellaOnline.
BellaOnline Interview Part 2
Carol Taylor shares her 18 years writing and editing experience with BellaOnline
BellaOnline Interview Part 1
Carol Taylor shares her 18 years writing and publishing experience with BellaOnline.
Book Review
Read the review at BellaOnline http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art174517.asp
Magazine Article
Society Column, Dwell Magazine 2001
Is there a crisis in black relationships? Despite millions of examples of loving couples, do black women and men still have negative perceptions of each other? If so, where did they come from and are they true?
TANGO MAGAZINE 2009
Interview
An Editor on Editing and Writing
The Life of an Erotica Writer
Excerpt
Bronx Biannual Literary Journal #2
Advice Column
Advice on Love and Lust
A novel
In a New York City rife with emotional landmines, four friends search for Mr. Right but often end up settling for Mr. Right Now.
Books
A Los Angeles Times Bestseller and Winner of the 2001 Gold Pen Award for Best Short Story Collection
The second book in the best-selling Brown Sugar series
The third book in the best-selling Brown Sugar series.
The fourth book in the best-selling erotic collection
Read an excerpt from the book
Short Stories
Uptown Magazine September 2005
Dwell Magazine April 2001
Oneworld Magazine Feb/Mar.2002
Oneworld Magazine Sept./October 2003